What is mentalising?
Put simply, mentalising is the ability we all have to manage times when we are uncertain about others, and ourselves. Uncertainty is always part of our intimate relationships, work relationships, social relationships and even how we relate to strangers. Mentalising helps us to fill in the gaps that uncertainty creates so that we can manage relationships healthily. Mentalising develops easily for people who are raised in secure and safe environments.
The optimal conditions for mentalising to flourish are when parents, or care-givers, give children enough patience, support, kindness, emotional availability and acceptance. Unfortunately many people do not consistently experience these conditions growing up. Furthermore, children have more difficulty developing mentalising skills if they have faced adversity such as bullying experiences at school, abuse of various kinds and separation from parents or care-givers. This therapy has been developed to assist people to reclaim their innate capacities to mentalise in order that they can feel happier about who they are and more secure and confident in their relationships.